By Robert A. Vella
Loneliness and depression, although not synonymous, can be very debilitating emotional states. In America today, the problem is particularly evident as societal stresses and cultural polarization impose great burdens upon individuals. Each demographic group may be affected differently and to varying degrees such as older people struggling with rapid social changes, younger people experiencing financial hardship, single mothers burdened by responsibility, outcast males being isolated, minority groups being ostracized and discriminated against, etc. However, virtually everyone has or will experience loneliness and depression at some point in their lives.
The following test is focused on loneliness, not clinical depression. Take it if you are so inclined. Hopefully, the results might provide some helpful awareness or perspective.
From: UCLA Loneliness Scale
Scale:
INSTRUCTIONS: Indicate how often each of the statements below is descriptive of you.
O indicates “I often feel this way”
S indicates “I sometimes feel this way”
R indicates “I rarely feel this way”
N indicates “I never feel this way”
Test:
1. I am unhappy doing so many things alone O S R N
2. I have nobody to talk to O S R N
3. I cannot tolerate being so alone O S R N
4. I lack companionship O S R N
5. I feel as if nobody really understands me O S R N
6. I find myself waiting for people to call or write O S R N
7. There is no one I can turn to O S R N
8. I am no longer close to anyone O S R N
9. My interests and ideas are not shared by those around me O S R N
10. I feel left out O S R N
11. I feel completely alone O S R N
12. I am unable to reach out and communicate with those around meO S R N
13. My social relationships are superficial O S R N
14. I feel starved for company O S R N
15. No one really knows me well O S R N
16. I feel isolated from others O S R N
17. I am unhappy being so withdrawn O S R N
18. It is difficult for me to make friends O S R N
19. I feel shut out and excluded by others O S R N
20. People are around me but not with me O S R N
Scoring:
Make all O’s = 3, all S’s = 2, all R’s = 1, and all N’s = 0. Keep scoring continuous.
Although the test does not provide a definitive assessment of individual scores, you can do so yourself with some degree of meaningful interpretation. The range of scoring is 0-60, where 0 represents the lowest level of loneliness and 60 the highest or most severe level of loneliness. For example, my score was 30 which I interpreted as having moderate, but not extreme, feelings of loneliness. For a more analytical assessment of the test, see: A Short Scale for Measuring Loneliness in Large Surveys.
Hmmm, I scored an 8. I’m going to now go read the more analytical assessment of the test, see what more it can tell me. 😉
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Let us know, okay?
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Well, I seem to be ‘an expected’ majority for the most part. LOL 🤔 Age and social demographics seem to play a significant part in the scores too.
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Yes, I gathered that too.
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Interesting test. I don’t consider myself lonely since I’ve spent big swaths of my life “by myself” … and have learned to enjoy it.
I would say any “loneliness” I’ve felt has been since I quit working. Most friendships, at least for me, were developed at work and seemed to fade into oblivion after I retired. And in today’s world, unless you have something in common (club, activity, church), it’s difficult getting to know new people.
Actually, I tend to think loneliness is a state of mind.
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Agreed, loneliness is a state of mind. Isolation, however, is a very real issue which you alluded to. My friendships were also mostly work-related, and the fact that I’m retired and never married creates additional difficulties in getting to know people.
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Yeah. I’m in deep poo-poo. But, I already knew that. I be a loner. Most of the people I communicate with these days are my blogging pals. Good thing for that. My dog is the best friend I’ve ever had, too. Otherwise, I’m alone A LOT. Various reasons for this. Being God-like in all I say and do makes it hard to speak to mere mortals, but I’m trying. Also, I’ve been reluctant to make friends since the Nobel Prize Committee put a bug on my phone. I don’t want to involve others in my legal issues with their harassment of me. The bastards.
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Hahahahaha! Jeff, your RAW honesty is incredibly refreshing! 😉 ❤
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Yeah, usually when I do anything in the raw, I get very strange looks from people.
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Like one huge eye in your forehead and three dangly antennae out your skull? 👽👹
Yep. Know the look. 😉
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I’m kind of a loner too, Jeff. But, I don’t have a dog, am not Godlike, and the Nobel Prize Committee doesn’t even know I exist – lol! 😀
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You need to do something about your life
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He needs a dog!!!
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Or two dogs
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Yep! 🐕🐕 💕
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Awww, they’re cute! 🙂
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Ruff, ruff!
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Best pal I’ve ever had!
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Nan, I prefer cats because they don’t bark, don’t slobber, and don’t demand constant attention. Unfortunately, one cannot discuss quantum physics with a cat – lol! 😀
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Cats have stinky boxes.
The thing is, Bob, we’re trying to help you not be lonely (not discuss quantum physics) and DOGS are the Very Bestest companions!
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Cats do have stinky boxes – lol! Unfortunately, my current residence is unsuitable for either cats or dogs.
I really appreciate your and everyone’s concern, but rest assured that I am doing fine. This post is not about me, but a recent change in my life did get me thinking about the issues of loneliness and depression. The problem is far more prevalent than most people realize, and I just wanted to start a discussion. 🙂
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This post is not about me — I think we pretty much knew that. You just happened to be the target since it’s your blog and your topic. 😀
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Noel, like Mongo said in Blazing Saddles: I am “only pawn in game of life.”
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Or as Aurelias (?) wrote, the world is a stage and each of us are actors.
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That was Shakespeare.
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Aurelius wrote this
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As to Shakespeare, you are the master.
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Yep. The Bard borrowed, and made beautiful, that sentiment in “As You Like It” in a famous soliloquy by a character named Jacques. Great play and a great speech.
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I think I read that play, but my memory is very bad
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Though he may well have lifted it from an earlier writer. Not many know this, but the Shakespeare play “King Lear” was a rewrite of an earlier play called…now hold on….”King Lear”. Billy just did it a whole lot better. 🙂
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Jeff you win all the time.
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Like tRump, only I’m not as rich. 🙂
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Robert, I’m very suspect of psychological tests. They become excellent tools for Big Pharma to pump us with their drugs.
Before seeing my doctor at the health clinic I attend, the UCLA volunteer assistant asks me all kinds of questions about my mental state of mind. She plugs all of my responses into her computer screen.
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Ros, I understand your concern. However, trying to understand the complexities of human psychology is an imperative especially now in this dysfunctional society of ours. Big Pharma and their dangerous drugs are equally important, but that’s a separate issue.
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Damn, I think I’m a freak. I’m never lonely, even when I’m alone. I don’t have as many friends or acquaintences as I used to, but that doesn’t bother me. I like being alone. I play music, write, listen to music, read, hang out with animals or watch DVDs of old movies or television shows. And I do a bit of traveling.
Also, a few years ago I married the most amazing person I’ve ever met. I’m dead ass broke and on the edge of homelessness, yet I feel extremely fortunate. My score was so low I’m a little embarrassed. 😮
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Considerate yourself fortunate. Not everyone is able to make the best of what they have. In fact, many who are surrounded by friends and have $$$ in the bank are very lonely in spirit.
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Very true.
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I hear that. I didn’t graduate Indoctrination School. I dropped out.
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Don’t be embarrassed, and you’re certainly no “freak.” We all should value the positive things in our lives. Those who don’t are begging for misfortune.
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